I talk to people every day, all day long. I have for years. I enjoy connecting with others, learning about them, identifying a window of opportunity, and inspiring them to be and do better. My close friends criticize me lovingly for giving people the benefit of the doubt too often. But if I don’t, who will? Yes, I get taken advantage of monetarily and have been robbed of countless hours getting nothing in return. I’ve been knocked down, criticized, and judged even in my own family over and over again. When I reflect back, though, on all the lives I’ve touched and impacted positively, it far outweighs the “noise” and negative encounters. For me, that’s all the fuel I need to keep going.
A theme that seems to emerge quite often in health coaching is “lack of self-love and self-worth.” People don’t believe they deserve to be healthy and that they can achieve it. They innately know that it’s time to make changes, live healthier, and eat better. But for so many, it’s hard to put into gear. How many of you are aware of the negative talk in your head? It’s like a tape recorder that plays over and over again. The negative talk often stems from our parents (truth be told) and loved ones. It comes from the people in our lives who told us we weren’t good enough, we couldn’t, shouldn’t, and weren’t capable of. It can sound like this: “John, why would you even think of starting a diet plan? You know you won’t stick to it. You know you’ve failed so many times before. And I sure as hell ain’t doing it with you. So good luck!” Step back and take a look at that one-way conversation. What the hell is that?! I count 5 negatives in there. When you’ve heard things like this over and over again in your life, you subconsciously absorb and believe it. You BECOME it whether you realize it or not. Let’s stop this B.S. once and for all.
Health is a personal choice. This is about YOUR body, YOUR mind, and YOUR long term health. I’m here to tell you not to let someone else make that choice for you because 1) they lack faith in you, 2) they don’t understand a single thing about this, and 3) they don’t want the best even for themselves. “Projecting” is a powerful, manipulative tool and the people in your lives who put you down are almost always the unhappiest people on the planet. It’s much easier to condemn others than take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror every morning. Recognize these behavioral patterns and become acutely aware of who and what is in your surroundings NOW. Do the people in your life inspire and motivate you? Do they support and love you unconditionally? Do they condemn, ridicule, and criticize or do they encourage you to be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be? How about social media? Do you follow pages that display all the negative things/people in our society or do you follow pages that inspire, educate, and uplift? This is a critical first step in your journey.
Step two is to accept what I am about to say. You DESERVE to be healthy. What was that again? YOU DESERVE GREAT HEALTH. YOU FREAKIN’ DESERVE IT!!! Write this down and tape it to your forehead. Literally. Right now. Absorb it through the process of osmosis. Wake up every morning, look at yourself in the mirror, and repeat those words. Do this every day for at least 21 days and guess what, you will actually start to believe this and own it. Each and every one of us has the right to THRIVE. You can live, you can barely survive, or you can thrive. Those are very different states of being. Life is so much about who you align yourself with and where you get your information from. We live in a very fear-based world dictated by what’s put out in the news, social media, and printed forums. I stopped watching the news a number of years ago. I stopped reading the paper exactly 8 years ago after reading a horrific story of animal cruelty in the state of Florida. It shook me so badly that I couldn’t function that day. I vowed to never read the paper again and haven’t. Realize that all of these little things slowly start to change our world, our environment, and the filter through which we see and perceive everything .
It is said that human beings are like onions. As we peel away the layers of the things in our lives that no longer work and no longer support a state of “thriving,” we can get back to who we truly are (were) as individuals. Remember, great health is a choice. Poor health is a long process that happens over many years. But great health is attainable once more and you absolutely deserve to be the best version of yourself. My team and I at The Keto Prescription truly hope to be one of the positive, uplifting things in your life that change your trajectory and set you on a course for better.
Dr. Jodi Nishida